Effective Communicator

People use different kinds of languages and dialects to communicate with each other, every culture has their own way in communicating, yet many people have “poor communication skills”. For me, an effective communicator is a person that have very good relationships with others, knows how to communicate with each individual with their understanding, for example if you are going to give a speech in public, you need to study your audience first, so they will be able to understand you better.

They are many ways you can become a more effective communicator, is trainable, and with some practice, you can become a pro. Every communication has a purpose; no matter you are talking to your friends, teachers or even parents, what are the purposes here? You need to get your ideas through by using different techniques, maybe body language, facial expression or tone of voice to help.
Enable to become an effective communicator, you must change your communicating style to match that of the person you are communicating with, it is no use expecting them to change for you.
There are some tips you can use and learn enable to improve your communication skill. Firstly, you need to be able to listen and observe, people can listen more words then they speak. When you listen with a purpose such as to gain information, obtain directions, understand others, solve problems, share interest, show support, etc. By defining your purpose in listening you can moderate your responses to accomplish your purpose.
Secondly, you need to listen actively, you need to concentrate on someone for a length of time, which might be difficulty, so if you can take notes while the person is talking, maybe that will help you focus more.
Thirdly, know how to respond. The first thing to learn in this part is that you will find communication much easier if you are speaking in the same way (tone, tempo and rhythm) as your correspondent: If you usually speak fast, find someone who speaks slowly (or vice versa) and match their tempo when you are talking with them, and then measure how successful that conversation was in comparison to a conversation with them which was entirely on your natural tempo. Also when you respond, try to use positive directions, I don’t mean being nice to people, but people’s brain response better with positive answers.
The last important thing to learn about communication skills is the goal of the communication. You must keep this in mind when entering into any communication for you to be able to measure its success and thus moderate your future attempts to achieve your goals through communication. If your goal is to cheer up a friend, you will be able to tell if you have been successful by comparing the tone of the friend at the beginning and at the end of the conversation. Or if your goal is to build a relationship more solidly, then you can compare your correspondent mood before and after each communication. You need to know in each communication process, did you achieve your goals through the communication or not. If you didn’t achieve your goals in the end that means you still have room to work on your communication skill.

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